is it just all about how great you can bargain?

here's another silly thought of mine! :)

hey there folks, have you ever been in relationship? i don't know since when, i start to keep wondering about how to make a relationship works? i somehow believe that relationship could be succeed or not, is based on what we've agreed at the first time..
you know, at the very first time, before we really sure that we're going to have a relationship with someone, we're really have to think about how well we knew this someone, how well we can get along with this someone, and etc.. and we sort of making our own "rules", and try to adjust that into someone's elses rules. and when its works on both of you, then BAM! you are now in a relationship! quite easy eh?:)

but what i'm really concerning here is, is it just all about how great you can bargain? or about which one is having more advantages in that relationship? it's just strikes me out! PATHETIC, isn't it? but then again, in some levels, it is true! i hate to admit this, but somehow, when i questioning about this, i always end up with agreeing with those statements.. hmm.. it's a good thing tho, if you think you can connected those things with commitment! yeahs, commitment is good! hehe.. but still, is it all just about that? where's love, caring, sweet talk, and stuffs? does the commitment is making those stuffs gone? if its a yes, then being a marriage couple, where commitment is above everything is really such a disaster eh? hehe..
well, i'm not saying i'm afraid of that commitment thingy, or too chicken for being a mariage couple! i love being tight into relationship, i love rules, commitment, and everything around it! hehe.. but yes, then again! i'm just a newbie in this full serious commitment of life! and asking so many questions lead me to it closer! errrr.. am i? hehe..
oke then, i'm out! :)


love,


your author

JEALOUSY AND COMMUNICATION

jealousy.. have you ever feel it? how far would you go to show it to someone else? it's an interesting thing to be discussed, i guess..

Each person would have felt jealous, the only difference is in what level the jealous is? well, i mean this is a jealous for a spouse, in particullar ..
many things are affecting the level of jealousy, here's some of the examples : the reason why we are jealous, the people that makes us feel it, how long we have been in a relationship, and how far we "did things" in that relationship.. and sure there's more things that also follow the influence of jealousy!

i kinda in the middle of couple's drama now, i mean the drama of jealousy thingy! i dont want to spoil someone's misfortune here. but sometimes, my curiousity's killing me! i end up with asking so many times, "WHY"? it isnt because s/he's not suppose to feel it, but i dont think someone in that quality could have done something that far, just to show her/his spouse they love them that much!

i think, all of those misunderstanding things are because of we cant find a way to communicate. for me, communication is like EVERYTHING! we can tell someone what we really want and let them understand by finding the rite way to say it.. yes, correct me if i'm wrong anyway, maybe few people said that love is conquers all odds, but how can you love a person if you barely even talk to him/her? it's for me like IMPOSSIBLE things to do!

hey come on, if there's something that you hate about your spouse, just let him/her knows! tell them! being angry, insulting, and end up with crying wont solve your problems! trust me! you can talk nicely, and find the way to solve it, TOGETHER! :)

so for the couple in fight out there, remember one thing! do u really want to lose him/her? if you dont, then TALK! and please dont let anyone elses got stuck in your way! it wont do any good! okay then, good luck! hope you guys are a happy couple, wherever you are! :)


love,


your author

the frequency

hay guys,
welcome back to another silly thoughts of mine! hehe..
this time, i'd like to share about my perception for the word "soulmate".. uhhh its a BIG WORD eh? hehe.. so many books wrote about this subject, try to explain more about it.. "what's soulmate?, who's gonna be ur soulmate?, where u can find ur soulmate?, etc" HA! it's for me, too much to take, too difficult to understand.. well, i'm just a girl in my early 20's who's looking for a simple and happy life, i guess i dont need those kind of definitions! hehe..

i finally get my own definition for that "soulmate" word! the simplest explaination that i could ever given to myself! i always think that when we find our soulmate, it wont take much efforts, it wont make u feels like "whooooo-ing and booooo-ing" at the same time, its just happens! i mean it doesnt need a fuss situation, a "cry and laugh out loud" moments, infinite time, and another influential things, it's just happens, u just "click" to him/her.

and i know, it's called "being in the same frequency". you know, when u hear a radio, and you feel like "hmmm this tunes is really fits me", and you keep on going listen to it rite? and for me, find a soulmate is like find the rite tunes for us! we keep on turning the radio's tunes, til u get the tunes that perfectly fits you! i'm not saying it's an easy thing to do! but well, when we find it, we dont have to do those fuss thing, you just knew it! and its really feels like "home"..

so guys, at last, i'll take a note for self, and its okay for you guys to follow! "dont be stupid wasting your time for someone that "too much to take", coz i think when we find a "same frequency" person, they wont let us do those fussy things, and feels stupid for having those feelings for them, find someone that could make you feel love and be loved at the same time without having doubt at all cost, coz you knew they're really that mattter for you!"

love,

your author

the princess and the frog

I've got things to think.. let's try to define it on words..
if a princess really want to have a happy ending, she has to marry a prince rite? at least that's what we've already knew, something that we've dreamt of, rite ladies? hehe.. well, who's a prince anyway? i always thought that a prince is the rite frog, yes! the rite frog who's been kissed by us and all of sudden become a prince! haha.. i know it's sounds so silly! you can laugh at me now! hehe.. but hello, in a real life sometimes, i think it's true.. let's analogizing a frog as in a "wrong man", i mean an unsuitable man in a perfect time, suitable man in a wrong time, or both are wrong.. they're just "the frog", a frog that no matter how many times we kiss, they'll be the same! they just aren't meant to be for us! that take! and well, at last i end up questioning about, "how long does it take for me to kept kissing a frog til i met my very own prince?" i wonder.. :)

the lion's awake!

hay guys, so long we didnt catch up!i almost forgot about this blog.. yes, too much things are going on lately, and writting a blog is simply something that easily forgotten.. hehe..
well, i just want to say hello to all of you.. promise that i'll deliver some of my thoughts to you guys, soon! yes, as soon as i complete this work things! :):):)
ps. i miss you anyway, i miss the moments when writting is one of the way i use to kill the time! hehehe..
see you again soon on another silly thoughts of mine! chiao!